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Name: Dwayne IRW Mandy
Name: Connie IRW Ben
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Meeting Topic-Reflection for 11/29/13*
We are extending this topic for a couple of weeks, so that couples have the opportunity to share and prepare for the upcoming Holidays! *A business meeting will not be held this Friday due to the Thanksgiving Holiday.
Topic: Holiday Triggers
The Holidays can be particularly triggering for recovering couples. When we are not practicing awareness and honesty—through the tools of recovery—past hurts seem to surface without warning during the ‘season to be jolly’. There can also be a great deal of pressure to be ‘happy’ during the holiday season, but in reality, many couples who have dealt with addictions have suffered pain, loss, shame, betrayal, over-extending, and much more—in other words our addictions were not put on hold for the holidays! Now in recovery, we look to the Steps and our RCA recovery tools to help us navigate the holidays with our Higher Powers at the helm. For example, it might be particularly important to do a daily Step 10 in order to take inventory of how we are feeling and work to be current and honest with ourselves and each other around our triggers, etc.. Rather than wearing the old masks, recovery consistently tells us that joy and intimacy (into me you see) is a gift of allowing our partners to fully see us, and to work together as a team. Since RCA is one leg of a three-legged stool, working our individual recovery is just as essential to our coupleship recovery. Awareness of holiday triggers is a great first step—using the tools of recovery we can develop a ‘coupleship’ recovery plan to safely navigate the holiday seasons.
Are we staying aware of all the potential triggers that are possible during this holiday season? Have I discussed with my partner the triggers that could be harmful to our coupleship? Do we, as a couple, need or have a recovery plan for the holidays? What recovery tools can help us as couples ‘do it differently’? Please share your Experience, Strength and Hope, that you might help another couple with ‘A Recovering Holiday Season’.
We wish you all, a safe, loving, and Recovering Holiday Season! J
In Recovery, Gratitude & Service
Dwayne and Mandy