Q: What is a recovering couple?
A: The word “couple” is inclusive of any two people in a committed relationship without regard to legal status or sexual preference. A recovering couple is any partnership with a desire to remain committed to each other, and to restore and build healthy communication, caring, and greater intimacy.
We are couples who suffer from many different addictions and co-addictions, some identified and some not, some treated and some not. We come from many different levels of brokenness, and we want to build a new relationship based in recovery.
Q: What is Recovering Couples Anonymous?
A: Recovering Couples Anonymous is a 12-Step fellowship founded in the autumn of 1988. Thee are groups throughout the United States as well as worldwide. Although there is no organizational affiliation with Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.), our 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, and principles are adapted from A.A.
The primary purpose of RCA is to stay committed in loving and intimate relationships and to help other couples achieve freedom from addicted and destructive relationships. By using the tools of the program, we take individual responsibility for the well-being of the relationship, build new intimacy, and find joy with each other.
We do not seek to blame our partner for the disease of our current situation. Both partners bring expectations, family-of-origin messages, abuse experiences, and individual abilities and coping mechanisms (including addictions) to the relationship. Through RCA we begin anew!
Q: What about anonymity and the RCA website?
A: We observe all RCA’s principles and Traditions on our website. Since anonymity is “the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions,” we practice anonymity on RCA websites at all times. An RCA website is a public medium, which has the potential for reaching the broadest possible audience and, therefore, requires the same safeguards that we use at the level of press, radio and film.
Q. Who runs the business of RCA? What is the World Service Office and the World Service Board?
A: Recovering Couples Anonymous is (forever) non-professional. Each group is autonomous. The Board of Trustees of the World Service Organization (WSO) coordinates the World Service Office service center. The Board is elected on a rotating basis by the Fellowship at the annual International Convention.
The World Service Office serves as a contact point for distributing literature, answering questions, connecting couples with recovery meetings, and providing public information. Together with Group Contact Couples, the Board, the World Service Office and you, we carry the message to other recovering couples.
A: No. RCA is a recovery program based on spiritual principles, but its membership includes people of many faiths, as well as agnostics and atheists.
Q: What do you mean by “Higher Power”?
A: Step Two says: “We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to commitment and intimacy.” We recognize that, despite our best efforts, we needed help and that probably no human power could restore us to intimacy. Just as in individual recovery programs, each couple defines that power as they understand it together. For some it may be God, or a sunset, or a spiritual experience. There is room for every interpretation.